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    False nails...

    I'm not fond of long nails in startling colors, whether they're real or fake.
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    The Lure of Opulent Desolation

    That's it exactly. One further thing about being a secretary, bookkeeper, or having another traditional "female job": I think a lot of people don't realize the level of skill needed to do those jobs well. Or that a lot of educated people take those jobs because they can't find work in their...
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    Essential Books every Gentleman Should Have?

    The Oxford English Dictionary might also be available online through your library's web site.
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    The Lure of Opulent Desolation

    First, I like the work I do and the company I work for. And it's so hard to find good admin help that I've found it easy to find work, a plus since I can't spend six months or a year looking for a job. The pay is good enough for me to make my mortgage payment, save for retirement and enjoy a...
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    Does your Dancing have Enough Soul?

    Another Example In the 1994 Olympics, figure skater Oksana Baiul beat Nancy Kerrigan by a hair. Kerrigan was technically more competent than Baiul, who tended to make two-footed landings. Kerrigan was technically brilliant and skated a beautiful performance, all the more admirable for...
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    Does your Dancing have Enough Soul?

    Agreed--you have to have at least a fair basic and a few moves to work with. That's all that the one partner had who interpreted the music so well, a fair east coast basic and a few moves. I disagree with those who say "just move to the music!" People without any skill just end up swaying around...
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    The Lure of Opulent Desolation

    Time was when it was very hard for a woman to go into law, accounting, engineering, etc. unless she was wealthy and well connected. One of the partners where I work told me that they used to have to ask the client's permission to send female staff members on an assignment. Another told me that...
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    Does your Dancing have Enough Soul?

    Mechanics vs. Feeling I was going to write about mechanics being more important than feeling. But last night, I had a dance with someone who wasn’t technically great, but interpreted the music better than anyone I’ve danced with in a long time. It wasn’t so much the specific moves as the way he...
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    Does your Dancing have Enough Soul?

    Housekeeping Note Let's talk about dancing with feeling as opposed to doing random moves or going through the motions. For discussion about the history of swing dance, what constitutes authenticity, whether "east coast" is a legitimate term, who started what dance style, etc., please post...
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    "Old School" grace and mannerisms?

    I was in Toastmasters for a year or two, and while it was a lot of work, it paid off. It didn't give me more charm, I don't think, but it gave me confidence and let me use my sense of humor. Looking to others for inspiration is good, but don't try to imitate others. Unless you're a good...
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    When your told to put down the gun... DO IT!

    Is there another account?
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    Does your Dancing have Enough Soul?

    There are dancers who are proficient, and then there are dancers you love to watch and dance with. Proficient dancers are quick on their feet, they don’t miss a beat, they know lots of moves, and yet their dancing is more like a knack than an art. There’s no soul. The music and their partner...
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    "Old School" grace and mannerisms?

    I recommend Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior by Judith Martin. It starts with the philosophy of manners, then goes from basic civilization (table manners, common courtesy) to advanced civilization (in case you are ever invited to the White House). Judith Martin's knowledge...
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    "Old School" grace and mannerisms?

    Charm is, indeed, something that some people put on and take off. Those people are called phonies. Of course, there are techniques that are necessary to learn: physical grace, good posture, good table manners, etc. But you also need to cultivate the spirit that goes with them. It's a spirit...
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    Pampering

    Gotta have a good haircut.
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    Thanks a lot, folks...

    You built that trumpet? Wow! Welcome!
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    The fall of the phone

    I don't have a cell phone, but it's been necessary to reach coworkers on theirs when I had to meet a deadline. But if they'd provided complete, legible, accurate instructions in the first place, I probably wouldn't have had to call them. As for the need to be in constant contact with your...
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    Vintage Beauty New Years Resolutions - 2009

    Get to bed at 10:30. That's it. I think it's realistic. Several years ago I had the good luck to find a diet and exercise program I could practice almost every day. I've been able to stick with it because it's pretty simple, I feel good on it, and it produces good results.
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    The Lure of Opulent Desolation

    I'd forgotten about that book where Ms. Warner writes about how hard it is raising two little babies in a comfortable suburban home. From what little I know about Ms. Warner, she seems to have an ideal about how to live and is in pain about not living up to it. I hope she finds some peace.
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    The Lure of Opulent Desolation

    Funny, I was just reading a book on this subject. If you can't generalize, you can't extrapolate from your own experiences. But generalization applies better to the natural world than to people, although humanity has universal experiences. With some writers, I wonder, where do they find...

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