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What to do when they just don't get it

reetpleat

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RJCNTX said:
As I think about it, I think the main thing is that she is just embarrassed at this point when I'm with her and wearing a hat. While I have loved hats for a while, buying and wearing them is very recent.

I'm slowly pointing out when I see the celebs wearing a hat because that helps with her. :rolleyes:


My first thought was she might be embarrassed. Some women seem to be very concerned about what others think of them. Of course men do to, but men often will pretend to not care as a macho pride thing.

I would suggest you firstly, tell her that while she does not have to like them, please treat you with the respect you deserve by not being critical, or influencing your daughter. IF you are a good husband as I am sure you are, she needs to just be greatful that this is your only odd habit. Secondly, most money gurus advise couples to share some income, but also have ehteir own for their own interests. If you choose to spend yours on hats, that should be your right, and you should let her buy whatver she wants with her private funds.

Thirdly, when you go out, dress nicely, be very polite and gentlemanly and smile and say hello to everyone, so that you will always get very positive response. This should help her come around about being embarrassed.

Course, easy for me to say. I am single.
 

Spellflower

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epic610 said:
many women have a predisposition to anything that detracts attention away from them.

Do you mean "many women have an aversion to anything that detracts attention away from them."?
 

Red McCutcheon

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Or "many women have an aversion to anything that diverts attention from them."

Eventually, this will become a sentence worthy of Tolstoy. Rodney Tolstoy, that is.
 

ShortClara

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Vintage Betty said:
Why are we wasting time on this pesky conversation when you fellas could be talking about ME?? :eek: :D lol

LOL Betty, that's what I meant to say! I was too busy being on my girly high horse, the better for everyone to see me upon.
 

Vintage Betty

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ShortClara said:
LOL Betty, that's what I meant to say! I was too busy being on my girly high horse, the better for everyone to see me upon.

;)

Back on topic - if she likes celebs with hats, have you thought of buying a current gossip magazine than take her hat shopping for a woman's hat that is like her favorite celebrity? Sneaky, but it might soften her up.

VB
 

indycop

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epic610 said:
many women have a predisposition to anything that detracts attention away from them.
You could go the other way with that and say maybe some folks don't want attention brought to them. If you are with someone wearing a hat and people are looking then you may feel that they are looking at you too![huh]
 

PrettySquareGal

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RJCNTX said:
When I say "they" of course, you may read into that WIFE.

Who here has to deal with a wife that just doesn't understand your "deal with hats"?

I think the problem is that you want to wear hats but yet you aren't also wearing the pants? lol

*Runs far away*
 

Pink Dahlia

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epic610 said:
many women have a predisposition to anything that detracts attention away from them.

:eusa_clap

I didn't realize there were so many women out there who were anti hats. I love a gentleman in a hat. [huh]
 

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