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Unbelievable.... except that I've been there I would never do that to them, so I don't get it.
Putting the shoe on the other foot might get them to think a bit though. I might put my foot somewhere else but....
Unbelievable.... except that I've been there I would never do that to them, so I don't get it.
Scanners lol
Funny you said that.... I had to put another coat of paint on the kitchen cabinets
Just ask yourself how many of those families have weekly house cleaners! All the moms I know who work pay for house cleaners to come in at least once a month. Take one chore, saying cleaning bathrooms. I takes me 4-5 hours to clean 3 full baths. By the time I'm done, the kids come home and it's time to supervise homework.
You might have a point there. In which case, that means that women themselves have to come to terms with these occupations and just leave each other alone when one of them chooses to be a stay at home mother, nurse, school teacher etc. All of those are equals to me. I might value my wife being at home more personally as she does things I cannot do whether I was at work or otherwise. She actually becomes the school teacher, nurse, accountant, and many other occupations just being home with the children. Anyone who thinks that is easy needs an attitude adjustment.
is staying home and being a mother really being looked down upon or is it just people "thinking" it's being looked down upon? I don't see anyone here saying how terrible it is?
Just ask yourself how many of those families have weekly house cleaners! All the moms I know who work pay for house cleaners to come in at least once a month. Take one chore, saying cleaning bathrooms. I takes me 4-5 hours to clean 3 full baths. By the time I'm done, the kids come home and it's time to supervise homework.
Exactly! Most of this does not come from men. Some, sure. But most of the time it is women judging other women.
I spent a few years working in a library years ago working on a project trying to identify the most important home economics works written in the US. Part of my job involved going over the American Home Economics Association journals. In the 1970s, they handled a lot of backlash because *obviously* they were just trying to convince women to stay at home and "not develop themselves to their full potential."
Nevermind that the field of Home Economics was one of the first fields in which women could easily obtain higher education, positions of power in universities, helped to secure women the vote, and generally helped to make families lives' easier and better through knowledge about child care, nutrition, food safety, etc.
Putting the shoe on the other foot might get them to think a bit though. I might put my foot somewhere else but....
This isn't my first rodeo JamesMake it nice and even---long even brush strokes. Don't let the brush get dry.
Oh I know Even better though is my sister-in-laws best friend that has three kids..... she doesn't work, doesn't cook and has a full time housekeeper/nanny. What in the world does she do all day??
Now THAT is going waaaayyy out on a limb. I hope they are rich and not just stupid.
This isn't my first rodeo James
Nope, not rich at all.
Exactly! Most of this does not come from men. Some, sure. But most of the time it is women judging other women.
Sounds exactly like NOW propaganda from the same period.
It might have been NOW that was attacking them. I don't remember, but all of a sudden the entire association was on the defensive. Since I had started in 1850 and worked my way up to the 1970s historically through the home ec literature, I understood how home economics was intimately tied to the women's movement for equality and to feminism. Not just because a bunch of historians said so, but because it was evident through the literature itself.
I just kept smacking my head and swearing about how a bunch of people with no knowledge of history were making an enemy of their biggest supporter. And this twisted perspective is what most people still think about home economics: that it is just trying to keep women in the kitchen and barefoot. I could write a whole paper on how this is stupid on so many levels, but I won't.
I just kept smacking my head and swearing about how a bunch of people with no knowledge of history were making an enemy of their biggest supporter. And this twisted perspective is what most people still think about home economics: that it is just trying to keep women in the kitchen and barefoot. I could write a whole paper on how this is stupid on so many levels, but I won't.
Sitting down and thoroughly reading any five years' worth of the Ladies Home Journal between 1935 and 1950 would be an absolutely brain-scrambling experience for anyone who holds to the barefoot-and-pregnant image of the Golden Era woman. But no, they know better. "Oh look, a goofy ad we can ironically mock!"
Just ask yourself how many of those families have weekly house cleaners! All the moms I know who work pay for house cleaners to come in at least once a month. Take one chore, saying cleaning bathrooms. I takes me 4-5 hours to clean 3 full baths. By the time I'm done, the kids come home and it's time to supervise homework.
A girl who wants to engage in domestic activities because they're what she wants to do will be discouraged in every way from following that course, by the basic thrust of modern culture. Think of all the dismissive "hmph, whatta you wanna do, stay home and bake cooooooookies" gibes, all the "real girls play rough" propaganda, all the rest of it which convinces girls and young women that housework = unimportant silly feminine stereotypes. Think of all the guff the "Time Warp Wives" got, think of every stay-at-home mother who's ever been accused of being a sellout. And then wonder why the typical 21-year-old woman has no idea whatever of how to sew on a button or boil an egg.
As long as modern culture turns basic, necessary human tasks into punching bags for their particular sociopolitical agendas, we're just going to see more of this sort of thing. And that's not "progressive," it's just bone dumb stupid. And it's anything but free choice.
I've had other women tell me that I'm wasting my talents by staying home. I've also had women, at cocktail parties and husband's company functions, ask me what I do, then just sneer, turn around and walk away when I say that I'm a stay-at-home mom.