Where to find other retro singles?

[ClaraB]

Now i'm on the market again i really want to find someone who understands why i want to look the way i do, is proud of it even, and who doesn't mind my nylons hanging in the bathroom. lol

or someone who doesn't mind sleeping next to a head of pin curls. lol

You have made a very important point and I suppose I am seeking the same, understanding and appreciation. If my vintage inspired lifestyle wasn't important to me I would have abandoned it long ago and would likely, at least according to my friends, have a significant other right now. (My female friends are convinced my look and interests cause guys to run the other way.) At the same time I don't want to be sought out just because I look the way I do or because, as Miss Neecerie said, I am a "vintage person."

 

[airgrabber666]

or someone who doesn't mind sleeping next to a head of pin curls. lol

You have made a very important point and I suppose I am seeking the same, understanding and appreciation. If my vintage inspired lifestyle wasn't important to me I would have abandoned it long ago and would likely, at least according to my friends, have a significant other right now. (My female friends are convinced my look and interests cause guys to run the other way.) At the same time I don't want to be sought out just because I look the way I do or because, as Miss Neecerie said, I am a "vintage person."

Right on the nose. This is why I originally posted this topic - NOT because I am just looking for a "vintage person", whatever that is. I did preface my original post by stating that my ex was NOT into vintage, and next time, I'd prefer someone who shares the same vintage interests that I enjoy. That was the reason behind my question - where to meet other retro singles? (or, where to find folks who like what I like!).

 

[tempestbella42]

you would have to be into vintage lifestyle to understand how the look is achieved!
my last ex was sorta into it but wanted me to be ready in 5mins AND look like marilyn!!...so didnt realise my sleeping/walking around in pin curls was part of the package!! but he didnt dress up at all (combats and leather jacket..biker!)and i really missed that!I am like others on herein that my "day" job includes a uniform with restrictions so on days off it is/was important for me to feel good about what i wore and with his lack of understanding i do feel it contributed to the final breakdown of the relationship!
i remember spending my time getting dressed up and him just saying "well i prefer u in jeans!" I told him it wasnt for him id dressed up it was my own self esteem....something i lost with his help and its only now i feel better about myself!


Basically were all after the same thing...to be loved just as we are,
so maybe the heading should be Wher can we meet soulmates??


As for achieving the look i dont actually think the vintage look for us girls can take as long as most of my non vintage female friends take in getting ready!! and much more glamous results!

 

[Fleur De Guerre]

or someone who doesn't mind sleeping next to a head of pin curls. lol

You have made a very important point and I suppose I am seeking the same, understanding and appreciation. If my vintage inspired lifestyle wasn't important to me I would have abandoned it long ago and would likely, at least according to my friends, have a significant other right now. (My female friends are convinced my look and interests cause guys to run the other way.) At the same time I don't want to be sought out just because I look the way I do or because, as Miss Neecerie said, I am a "vintage person."

My mother said exactly the same to me and kept telling me to be more 'normal', however my female friends encouraged me to 'be myself' and stay the same! I always said wouldn't want to be with a guy who didn't appreciate my style.

I started swing dancing with several aims: fitness, enjoyment and yes, hopefully meeting a nice man through it. It didn't really work, though I did meet new friends and it did open up a whole new area of socialising that I don't doubt would have produced some sort of romance in the end. But I ended up meeting my boyfriend through the non-dancing vintage scene, by going to events full of people who enjoy dressing up as much as me, getting to know them, attending events *with* them, and being introduced to more of their friends gradually ... it was only a matter of time before I clicked with someone. It's all about making friends with likeminded people in my eyes, and then romance comes later, usually when you're not expecting it.

 

[LocktownDog]

lol yeah, online dating seems to attract all the wack jobs my way

I seem to attract wack jobs in all facets. Think Fatal Attraction Glenn Close ... on steroids ... jacked up on caffeine ... with multiple psychotic clones. :eusa_doh:

And all I want is to go fishing ... maybe take a nap. It'd be nice to have a woman be happy with a wink and a smile rather than spending every hour of every day on the move and having me "prove" I care by spending every red cent on her!

*end rant*

P.S.: Good to see ya again, Faith!

 

[SweetieStarr]

or someone who doesn't mind sleeping next to a head of pin curls. lol

You have made a very important point and I suppose I am seeking the same, understanding and appreciation. If my vintage inspired lifestyle wasn't important to me I would have abandoned it long ago and would likely, at least according to my friends, have a significant other right now. (My female friends are convinced my look and interests cause guys to run the other way.) At the same time I don't want to be sought out just because I look the way I do or because, as Miss Neecerie said, I am a "vintage person."

This might be shifting the thread off-topic, so moderators feel free to move it if needed. I understand the guys in the FL like women who dress/like vintage and vice versa. However, what is the prevelance of those not on the FL "running the other way" because of our vintage styles and interests?

 

[LocktownDog]

This might be shifting the thread off-topic, so moderators feel free to move it if needed. I understand the guys in the FL like women who dress/like vintage and vice versa.

I'm not sure that such a generalization is valid. [huh] I, for one, couldn't care less if the woman I meet wears a pink tutu and donald duck slippers. Its the attitude and personality that matters more than any thought of vintage fashion. I'm fairly sure many here agree.

Okay ... maybe the tutu and slippers aren't such a good idea ... but you get my point.

 

[SweetieStarr]

I'm not sure that such a generalization is valid. [huh] I, for one, couldn't care less if the woman I meet wears a pink tutu and donald duck slippers. Its the attitude and personality that matters more than any thought of vintage fashion. I'm fairly sure many here agree.

Okay ... maybe the tutu and slippers aren't such a good idea ... but you get my point.

I agree that is is the personality that counts, but I think some "non-vintage" people do think it's "weird" or turn away from it. I have gotten comments before like "why do you like these old things?" Clearly, that person did not understand the love and probably never will.

 

[Edward]

we read her in school....always prefered Wilfred Owens poetry myself but maybe thats y im single!!!:eusa_doh: :eusa_doh:

Ah, grand.... but he's no Yeats.

 

[tempestbella42]

Ah, grand.... but he's no Yeats.

true .xx

 

[airgrabber666]

We've had some wonderful suggestions thus far on how to meet other single folks with similar interests and tastes. Perhaps we can avoid the bartender's lock and keep this informative thread on track.

 

[reetpleat]

This might be shifting the thread off-topic, so moderators feel free to move it if needed. I understand the guys in the FL like women who dress/like vintage and vice versa. However, what is the prevelance of those not on the FL "running the other way" because of our vintage styles and interests?

A lot depends on your look and how attractive you are.

If a woman is very attractive, or has a great personality, a guy will care less about an odd quirk of style. Also, if a woman dresses in a vintage way that does not look so unusual, it will be different from a look that is very distinct, like a beehive hair do or something like that.

 

[reetpleat]

This might be shifting the thread off-topic, so moderators feel free to move it if needed. I understand the guys in the FL like women who dress/like vintage and vice versa. However, what is the prevelance of those not on the FL "running the other way" because of our vintage styles and interests?

Also, I don't know about women as much, but a guy in vintage who feels confident in who he is and how he looks will carry it off. A guy that is self conscious and awkward in their style, will not be attractive to women and seem odd.

 

[AmateisGal]

Also, I don't know about women as much, but a guy in vintage who feels confident in who he is and how he looks will carry it off. A guy that is self conscious and awkward in their style, will not be attractive to women and seem odd.

Great point, Reetpleet.

 

[avedwards]

Wearing vintage-inspired clothing (fedora, brown leather jacket or on occaision a suit) did not in any way affect my social life. While my ex did not wear vintage clothing herself, she could appreciate it when I did, which is all I care about really. The fact that she is my ex has nothing to do with my style of clothing or interests but my personality, but that has nothing to do with this thread.

To keep on topic, what matters is whether they accept you, not whether they share your interest I think. Just my opinion of course, since I am not really one to give any good advice.

 

[AtomicEraTom]

I am currently on the market as well, and know that if I saw a girl dressed vintage, I would find her 10 times more attractive than if she were not, and would be immediately drawn to her, but that's just me. I dress vintage every day of my life and it doesn't hurt my social life very much, I have lots of friends and kind of hang with a 'redneck' crowd I guess you would call them. I even do have one gal who has taken quite a shine to me and doesn't mind my attire or my hair. I was even recently engaged, but it was called off after 3 months, but that's neither here nor there.

Bottom line is, before I keep rambling, I've found it very hard to find vintage singles and am going to try some of the sites listed. I've never dated someone who shares that interest and I think it would make things much less complicated.

 

[ClaraB]

I've never dated someone who shares that interest and I think it would make things much less complicated.

I always think that it would make things easier to date someone that shares my vintage interests but sometimes I think it might further complicate things.

You know you're mixing forties shoes with a fifties dress, right?

 

[Luke 42]

I always think that it would make things easier to date someone that shares my vintage interests but sometimes I think it might further complicate things.

You know you're mixing forties shoes with a fifties dress, right?

sorry for off-topic, but that episode is really ace

 

[AtomicEraTom]

I always think that it would make things easier to date someone that shares my vintage interests but sometimes I think it might further complicate things.

I spose It could, I just never thought of it that way myself. Most people can be a bit off-put by someone who walks around in attire that hasn't been in fashion for over half a century, my friends sure aren't, but the women I pursue often are. I think that it would be great to find someone who has that in common because even if you may be apart by a decade, you'd at least have that common understanding. And I gotta be honest, I'd much rather step back a decade in my attire, and start wearing bold look suits and fedoras on a regular basis (in fact I'd love it) than have to upgrade to wearing Nike's and T-Shirts and what-not.

Also Clara, watched the video and enjoyed it. Sounds like how people talk about me "He drives one of those big cars with fins in the back" If I had a nickel haha. Wish I had a zoot suit though!

 

[Spiffy]

I love this episode of Daria.
Well, to be frank, I love all episodes of Daria, but I love this one especially for everyone's reactions to Jane's outfits. I'm almost afraid to show it to my friends and be mocked further.

TruFax: I once made a video-mashup with the Daria "Communism" episodes, vintage Red Scare cartoons, and film footage from burlesque shows. Hooray for fan!culture!