Edward
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Barbigirl said:Fickle or realistic? Sometimes I wonder.
I guess I've seen one too many people get totally wrapped up in the idea of "the one" to the extent where they will put up with some dreadful behaviour they shouldn't, or even drop someone great for someone else they believe to be "the one" (so often doesn't work out!), or otherwise end up permanently alone and unhappy with it, their [primary fixation benig this mystical "the one" that nobody real ever matches up to.
On the other hand, I guess pushed to extremes it can become a fickle thing. I've never been a one for the idea that something is "meant to be" for the time it lasts, but "not now." always - especially when an ex-girlfriend tried to pull that one on me in the middle of a difficult break-up - smacked of a cop-out unwillingness to accept the relationship was a mistake.