Fletch
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All good advice - in context. The Zeitgeist mostly buzzes right past me anyway. But now and then a chunk of it will smack you in the eye, and you have to think something, and if you're like me you have to tell somebody.
Now back to men, if I may...
I DNRTA yet - I'm not exactly interested in yet another puffy light news item designed to keep an industry and its professionals fresh and buzzy - but I do have an opinion. I believe there is something unavoidably masculine-gendered about the very word scruffy.
I'm scruffy myself fairly often. It's something only a male can do right. Females may be tomboyish or windblown or earth-mortherly, but scruffy is limited. It requires the ability to grow facial hair and perspire, then do nothing about either. It also requires at least a pretense that how you look has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with who you are - that even tucking in a shirt or lacing a shoe can be an act of vanity and, yes, pretense. (Yes, it's possible to have a pretense to a look of no pretense. If it weren't, it would be a very different-looking world.)
That idea is, I hold, thoroughly masculine - the idea that actually caring about your style can be an act of treason, either against your "true self" or, if not that, against manliness.
Ironically enough, though, a male's style is suspect only when it is honest. Pretensions to unstylishness will always pass.
Now back to men, if I may...
I DNRTA yet - I'm not exactly interested in yet another puffy light news item designed to keep an industry and its professionals fresh and buzzy - but I do have an opinion. I believe there is something unavoidably masculine-gendered about the very word scruffy.
I'm scruffy myself fairly often. It's something only a male can do right. Females may be tomboyish or windblown or earth-mortherly, but scruffy is limited. It requires the ability to grow facial hair and perspire, then do nothing about either. It also requires at least a pretense that how you look has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with who you are - that even tucking in a shirt or lacing a shoe can be an act of vanity and, yes, pretense. (Yes, it's possible to have a pretense to a look of no pretense. If it weren't, it would be a very different-looking world.)
That idea is, I hold, thoroughly masculine - the idea that actually caring about your style can be an act of treason, either against your "true self" or, if not that, against manliness.
Ironically enough, though, a male's style is suspect only when it is honest. Pretensions to unstylishness will always pass.
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