Hi, Annyth, welcome to the FL. I think there are some threads here on age and clothing; maybe somebody will post a link.
I think certain styles look better at certain stages of life. :) There are vintage styles to suit people of all ages.
Again, I don't know if those movies reflect the customs of their day. Even if they did, there are many conventions of the dance world from 1940 that are no longer practiced. Personally, I wouldn't care for it if someone asked another person's blessing to "borrow" me, but I wouldn't take offense...
Inky, I think the answer is for you to just ask other people to dance. There are typically more women than men at dances, and if you seem to be on a date with your husband, people may be wary of interrupting you. If you're dancing at a very low level, wait for a slower song you can dance well to.
Troglodyte, I love your point about understanding things as they are. :) If anyone longs for the ballrooms of old, I refer you to post 18 on p. 1. For all the faults of the current dance scene, there are nights that are absolutely magical.
It's been mentioned that dancing isn't a sport. OK...
Respectfully, let's get back to talking about the pros and cons of recreation with a weak partner. References to activities besides dancing are welcome.
A few of the points brought up so far:
Different venues emphasize different things: skill at some, socializing at others. If you don't...
Dancing is a little like driving: it takes practice, lessons, attention, skill, and a regard for rules. But it's a lot less dangerous, a lot more fun, and you can usually avoid people with a bad attitude. :)
Blessing required?
I don't watch dance movies--I just don't care for them. [huh] And I don't know if they reflect the standards of their day.
Now that I think about it, people on dates or engrossed in conversation tend to be left alone at dances where I go. I think this is a good...
Pdx, I've given this subject a lot of thought over the past several days. In addition to this thread, I've asked dancers whose opinion I respect. Mostly, I wanted to check myself to make sure I had a reasonable attitude.
I agree with you about avoiding interrupting people in conversation...
Different venues have different standards. At some places, people dance solo; at others, couples put their arms around each other and sway and call it good. As long as the patrons enjoy it, that's perfectly fine. Most of what's been said here applies more to venues that cater to serious dancers...
It's been seven years and I still remember who was too cool to dance with me--or even look at me.
Oh, the excuses they made on chat boards for their snobbery: injuries, newbies yanking their arm off, the natural order of things (e.g., supermodels don't hang out with nerds--I'm not making...
Viola, I draw a distinction between those who are new and learning (newbies) and those who have been in the scene for months and haven't learned the basics (weak partners). I don't consider newbies inconsiderate just for being new.
I pretty much agree with what others have said here about...
Etiquette should be part of the dance curriculum. Part of this particular problem is that people tend to think they're better than they really are. It's not necessarily their fault, their view is a product of the messages that the culture has been putting out there for the past few decades: You...
Agreed. :)
This reminds me of something that happened to another dancer. He asked a girl if she'd like to balboa, and she said, "Yes, but not with you." The person she rudely turned down was Dan Newsome, a national lindy hop champion. I've never known Dan to be anything but gracious to...
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