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  1. Paisley

    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    Old-timers say it smelled bad, too. Then there's the area nearby around the old American Lead smelter, where the EPA dug out and replaced dirt two feet deep around the nearby houses. As houses have been torn down, recontamination has occurred; the EPA is digging up more yards to replace the...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    This is a big issue. The old RCA factory in Indianapolis (actually the grounds, since the factory was torn down this year) would literally take 20 years of environmental cleanup (where they inject chemicals into the ground) to make it suitable for residential use. Fortunately, there's clear...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    Conversation in Indianapolis: "I hear there's a hydroponic farm in the old battery factory." "No, the new high school is going in the old battery factory." "I thought that was going in the coke plant." "They're putting a convention center there." "You're thinking of the Coca-cola bottling...
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    The discussion about the general lack of vitamin D3

    Lard, too, but I think the piggies have to be raised on a pasture in the sunshine.
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    I'd be climbing the walls if I was stuck at home all day--and I actually like doing stuff around the house. I'd be living a life without any purpose if I spent it shopping and gossiping and playing games. Volunteering is working, but without getting paid. And I never had a bit of desire to have...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    Would any of these women have told you their frustrations or if they regretted marriage and/or kids? I'm not being cynical, I'm being realistic. There are women who love being stay-at-home moms, women who hate it, and everything in between. From an evolutionary standpoint, genes are selected...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    In some ways, people are working harder because of technology. Fifteen years ago, my employer could hire a temp to fill in for me if I called in sick. Now, the technology for the same job has become so much more complicated that that isn't possible. When I return to work, I come back to a big...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    There's no shortage of men on Youtube mansplaining why women today would be happier as housewives with a couple of kids than they would with a career.
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    Substitute all those chores with housework, shopping and child care, on top of full-time work, and you have a common complaint among present-day wives.
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    About the only thing I'm nostalgic for is the time I was into swing dancing. I'd still go, but my knees won't take the abuse anymore. That, and I miss a few people who've passed or whom I don't see anymore. But childhood? Or being young and dumb? Or twenty-something and broke? Those days were...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    I don't think it's just familiarity that enforces behaviors, but some kind of a stick. The stick can be shunning, banishment, threat of hellfire, loss of job or status, or even death. Hunter-gatherer tribes were tiny, even compared to small towns--no more than around 150 members. Most of their...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    People were, and to a lesser extent are, kept as pets as a status symbol. Think foot binding, trophy wives, grandchildren of the wealthy not trained in any practical endeavor, even slaves. (For all the slavery in the antebellum South, the South was much poorer than the North.) I do think...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    I'd have been improper--30 years with my parents would have driven me over the brink.
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    From Etiquette by Emily Post, 1940 edition, page 210: "Are Maids Allowed to Receive Men Friends? Certainly they are!....A pretty young woman whose men friends come in occasionally and play cards with the others, or dance to a not too loud phonograph or radio in the kitchen, is merely being...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    IIRC, since I don't have the book in front of me, Emily Post advised people with live-in servants to let the girls receive dates in the house because it was safer for them. Girls got doped back in the day--my grandmother, born 1904, said whenever someone gave her a stick of gum, she'd put it in...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    I just found out that I can't can with a big canner on my glass-top stove (purchased by the previous owners of my house at ridiculous expense). I'm stuck canning three pints at a time in a soup pot because a big canner is too heavy and has a convex bottom, which a glass-top stove won't boil...
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    Did the Rules of Etiquette Provide a Greater Sense of Safety For Women?

    There's no better way to signal that you feel old than to get all freaky about being treated like you're over 30. No 18-year-old girl would care if someone called her ma'am.
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    Agony column?

    I learned what the word "resorption" meant today when I had a root canal.
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    Agony column?

    If your ex was a narcissist with that little regard for them, it might be better for your kids if he stays out of their lives (especially if they're still little). Ollie Mathews made a good point to a contributor: "You're not in love with the narcissist, you're in love with who you wanted them...
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    Agony column?

    I took magnesium and potassium pills when I was dealing with my own stress one to two years ago. They got rid of the palpitations. Youtube was a source of stress relief, too. Sometimes, I'd get the urge to watch a particular TV show from long ago, or someone's videos hit the right note with me...

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