ChiTownScion
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There's real value in a couple sharing a common frame of reference, common experiences, and a common worldview. Marriages across class or cultural lines often lack these ingredients, and the result is often tension -- not just between the couple, but between the in-laws, and it doesn't always disappear over time. Inevitably, one side -- usually the side "marrying up" -- is made to feel that the onus of "adapting" is entirely on them. I know this from personal experience that I have no intention of ever repeating.
Three basic areas I have found to be the source of tensions in a marriage: money, kids, and in-laws.