HudsonHawk
I'll Lock Up
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⇧ More than anything, the male - female "experience" difference doesn't make sense to me.
A friend of mine (and I'm just going to say it), not a particularly good looking guy, sadly lost his wife to cancer in his early 40s and he had women knocking down the door - and some very attractive ones - to get to him.
One of my girlfriend's best friend, is a very nice, very (very) attractive 47 year old woman who can't even find anyone to go out with.
And similar stories to these repeat themselves in my life regularly.
What I don't get is why men and women have such different experiences in their 40s and 50s.
Speaking from my own experience as a "eh, you'll do" guy, not unattractive, but certainly not a matinee idol: When I was 25-30ish, it was nearly impossible to find women my age, but boy let me tell you about the 35-50 year old women who threw themselves at me. And I'm not bragging, that's just the way it was. I was reasonably attractive (at least not hideous), had a steady job, and didn't live in my parents' basement. Apparently that's a prize. I will say though, that I know single men my age, 45-55, and to put it simply, I've been shocked at the younger girls out there who apparently have a "daddy thing". Not that I want to be part of that, but now at least I know where all the 25 year old women were back in the day.
I got married at 35 (to a woman I'd known since we were 20, but hadn't dated that whole time), and had pretty much had enough of the dating scene. I'm now in the same camp as Sheeplady...dating today would be far too exhausting. I'd likely have to stay up past 9:30, and what if she didn't like baseball? No thanks.