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I was raised on the philosophy that "life ain't for sissies". The world will chew you up and spit you out if you let it. So go out and make what you wish. Don't be afraid, don't be an Eyeore, and don't let other people make you miserable. Find the good and it will find you back. I guess that's the definition of optimism.
I tell my wife that's my problem. I was literally in a Brady Bunch world growing up - until my folks divorced out of the blue when I was 12. It hit me and my brother hard. We didn't have much, but somehow it was just a quaint and wonderful life. Don't think I had any adversity until 12 and then I was taken back because there was no groundwork for this in my brain.
My wife, OTOH, was abused by her dad AND stepdad and grew up in a pretty crappy place - in spite of there being lots of money and Hollywood fame there.
She has a great outlook, and we look at each other and wonder if we shouldn't have been more tough on the kids as that is the way the world is...