A friend of mine once told me "When I first met you I thought you were so refined and ladylike, but then I got to know you and I realized that you ARE all that, but your are not the least bit prim".
In school a girl told me she'd hated me when we first met because I always had matching clothes and perfectly manicured nails etc. 'You were so perfect I just wanted to punch you,' she said. 'But you're not at all like that!'
Eh, no. Things aren't as pretty on the inside (as my fave musician would say).