MissHannah said:As you say, politics are a reflection of core values and that's why that matters. The religion thing is different because an atheist and a christian actually have opposing views on the fundamental nature of reality itself and that is trickier to overcome. Having said that I do have a few very good friends who are christians and we manage to muddle through. But a really close intimate romantic relationship is much harder.
I remembered something else essential - I cannot bear helpless men who don't know how to cook or do a load of laundry, it's a massive turn-off for so many reasons. So the ability to keep house would be preferred!
Also, I love a bit (or a lot) of grey hair (if the gentleman in question has hair).
religion can be tough because of the lack of proof in any one way but strong beliefs, but if the values are the same, people who truly care to make it work should be able to do so
helpless: I'm with you sister. if he can manage on his own before me, having me in the picture should NOT negate any survival skills. not that I shouldn't help by any means, it should be a joint effort. if I can work at a good job (which I do), and still help around the house and cook, then so can he. if he can't manage on his own to begin with, I won't be interested in teaching him that's for sure lol