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Al, once again my deepest condolences in the loss of your wife. As for your hat choice, it sounds like you have hit the mark for her celebration. My thoughts are with you.
Belated and sincere sorrow for your loss, Al. I don't think I can say anything else.
Very sorry for your loss, AL.
My belated condolences also, Al. I'm just now learning of your loss, not venturing into many threads here anymore. May happy memories of your yrs together soon replace your sorrow.
Al, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
My heartfelt condolences, Al. It must be a difficult time.
Sounds like your choice of hat would be perfect to celebrate happy memories of your dear wife.
First off, I think you know best what your wife and family would consider "respectful", but your plans sound to me like a fine way to honor your wife.
Second, just to relay a recent experience - I struggled with whether or not to wear a tasteful black fedora to a graveside funeral service and burial, with plans to remove my hat during the prayers and actual service, but I chickened out at the last moment and went hatless. Being balding and fair skinned, I severely sunburned my head in just over an hour, and dealt with the results for almost three weeks. I doubt the handful of folks that wore ball caps to the service suffered the same fate.
I say wear the hat of your choice in a way that you feel would honor your cherished partner.
My sincere appreciation and thanks to all of you for both the sympathy and the advice! I've decided I'll wear the hat at the wake because that will be a more casual evening environment. The church service and interment are the next day, and I'll leave the hat at home because I'm pretty sure that leaving it in the car for an hour (while I'm in the church) on a day when the temperature is predicted to be 90°F would only ensure I'd never be able to wear it again.So terribly sorry for your loss, Al.
I can only reiterate what others have said about the hat choice. I can’t imagine anyone being upset at your choice.