William Stratford
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No, they are not. You think they are. I don't.
I think the problem is that we don't mean they same by "individualism".
Individualism - the notion that the individual, and their expression of individual identity, is more important than wider society.
Our manners are something which we receive from the previous generation. They are the means by which a society coheres and cooperates but they are not universal in form - different societies can have different tweakings of interpretations of them. They do not need to be based on empathy at all - do you think that not putting your elbows on the table whilst eating, or passing the port to the left (for example) are about empathy? Manners have a value in the coherence that they bring (with everyone sharing them) but also in our disciplining/submitting ourselves to them (and thus learning to be social creatures rather than anti-social ones).
When I say "individualism" I mean the opposite of peer pressure and swallowing any silliness just because "everybody else does it".
Then you are mis-using the term (which, of course, is a very individualistic thing to do...hence why people today are often seeking to redefine words to a new meaning).
Individualism is anti-social. It is not simply having a bit of personality or a little eccentricity, but rather putting the individual before the society.
Rationalists insist on our behaviour being justified, as if fitting with an external and absolute measure, but that is a bizarre notion that would mechanise humanity by ignoring the fact that much of what we do is rightly arational.
Not that I expect a lawyer to understand that.