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Robbery gone awry, ends with group hug

KittyT

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A gate-crasher’s change of heart:
Gunman bursts into party, tastes cheese and wine, gets hug, then leaves


http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/19740787/?GT1=10150

WASHINGTON - A grand feast of marinated steaks and jumbo shrimp was winding down, and a group of friends was sitting on the back patio of a Capitol Hill home, sipping red wine. Suddenly, a hooded man slid in through an open gate and put the barrel of a handgun to the head of a 14-year-old guest.

"Give me your money, or I'll start shooting," he demanded, according to D.C. police and witness accounts.

The five other guests, including the girls' parents, froze -- and then one spoke.

"We were just finishing dinner," Cristina "Cha Cha" Rowan, 43, blurted out. "Why don't you have a glass of wine with us?"

The intruder took a sip of their Chateau Malescot St-Exup?©ry and said, "Damn, that's good wine."

The girl's father, Michael Rabdau, 51, who described the harrowing evening in an interview, told the intruder, described as being in his 20s, to take the whole glass. Rowan offered him the bottle. The would-be robber, his hood now down, took another sip and had a bite of Camembert cheese that was on the table.

'Can I get a hug?'
Then he tucked the gun into the pocket of his nylon sweatpants.

"I think I may have come to the wrong house," he said, looking around the patio of the home in the 1300 block of Constitution Avenue NE.

"I'm sorry," he told the group. "Can I get a hug?"

Rowan, who lives in Falls Church and works part time at her children's school, stood up and wrapped her arms around him. Then it was Rabdau's turn. Then his wife's. The other two guests complied.

"That's really good wine," the man said, taking another sip. He had a final request: "Can we have a group hug?"

The five adults surrounded him, arms out.

With that, the man walked out with a crystal wine glass in hand, filled with Chateau Malescot. No one was hurt, and nothing was stolen.

The homeowner, Xavier Cervera, 45, had gone out to walk his dog at the end of the party and missed the incident, which happened about midnight June 16. Police classified the case as strange but true and said they had not located a suspect.

"We believe it is a true robbery," said Cmdr. Diane Groomes, who is in charge of patrols in the Capitol Hill area. But it's one-of-a-kind, she said, adding, "I've never heard of a robber joining a party and then walking out to the sunset."

The hug, she said, was especially unusual. "They should have squeezed him and held onto him for us," she said.

Rabdau said he hasn't been able to figure out what happened.

"I was definitely expecting there would be some kind of casualty," Rabdau said this week. "He was very aggressive at first; then it turned into a love fest. I don't know what it was."

Was it the wine or the cheese?
Rabdau, a federal government worker who lives in Anne Arundel County with his family and lived on Capitol Hill with his wife in the 1980s, said that the episode lasted about 10 minutes but seemed like an hour. He believes the guests were spared because they kept a positive attitude during the exchange.

"There was this degree of disbelief and terror at the same time," Rabdau said. "Then it miraculously just changed. His whole emotional tone turned -- like, we're one big happy family now. I thought: Was it the wine? Was it the cheese?"

After the intruder left, the guests walked inside the house, locked the door and stared at each other. They didn't say a word. Rabdau dialed 911. Police arrived quickly and took a report. They also dusted for fingerprints -- so far, to no avail.

In the alley behind the home, investigators found the intruder's empty crystal wine glass on the ground, unbroken.
 

dhermann1

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Well. I'm sure I'll get an argument on this, but I just think that SOOOO much antisocial, aggressive, criminal, or general bad behaviour comes from people just acting out their issues. This could have changed this guy's whole life around. Or not, you don't know. But I think a lot of people who wind up criminals are just going through the act of fulfilling who they think they need to be. Intervention of a positive kind can turn lives around, if they happen at the right moment. I mean, group hugs are definitely not the solution to the problems in Iraq, but understanding why these people think the way they could be.
Just a thought for the day.
 

Miss Neecerie

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dhermann1 said:
Well. I'm sure I'll get an argument on this, but I just think that SOOOO much antisocial, aggressive, criminal, or general bad behaviour comes from people just acting out their issues. This could have changed this guy's whole life around. Or not, you don't know. But I think a lot of people who wind up criminals are just going through the act of fulfilling who they think they need to be. Intervention of a positive kind can turn lives around, if they happen at the right moment. I mean, group hugs are definitely not the solution to the problems in Iraq, but understanding why these people think the way they could be.
Just a thought for the day.


:eusa_clap :eusa_clap


Pity some threads can't end with a group hug. lol
 

Dagwood

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Food has that effect on people. For example, nobody can be angry while eating cheesecake.
 
LocktownDog said:
Ummm ... okay. Someone holds a gun to the head of my kid, and they ain't getting a hug. :rage:

Richard

As a local mortgage banker says, "Hurt a kid and sooner or later, this life or the next, someone's goin' to work on you with a blowtorch and a drill."

If it's MY kid, that someone is gonna be me, and it's gonna be much sooner, like "on the spot".

What can I say? My friends and family really are all I have to lose--everything else is expendable, if necessary to keep them safe. (And I do mean "everything"...:eek:)
 

BegintheBeguine

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I've always liked people called Cha Cha

Setting aside the hug (which the criminal suggested after being spoken to) for the time being, how about what started the whole sense of calmness?
and then one spoke.

"We were just finishing dinner," Cristina "Cha Cha" Rowan, 43, blurted out. "Why don't you have a glass of wine with us?"

Someone sensible was at the table. Goes along with 'treat people how you would like to be treated'.
 
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I read this story right before seeing it posted here. Here are my thoughts on the situation: I agree with those who say they wouldn't have hugged a man who threatened the safety of their child. No argument from me. But, from what I can gather, it doesn't seem like the robber actually wanted to rob anyone. He may have gone out with the intention of robbing, but it almost seemed like he was doing it against his own will. I say this because, if someone wants to rob you, they're going to rob you no matter if you give them a glass of wine or a map to the fountain of youth. If someone being civil to him was all it took for him to have a change of heart, I'd have to say that his heart wasn't in the crime to begin with. It seems like a "grown up" version of a kid acting out for attention. That's just my humble opinion. :)
 

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This is like that case a few years ago where a man kidnapped a woman and she prayed with him and made him breakfast. She got away unharmed. Not all criminals are like that, of course, but most people in general are less likely to get snotty if they are treated respectfully. Experts say you should follow your instincts.
 
Paisley said:
This is like that case a few years ago where a man kidnapped a woman and she prayed with him and made him breakfast. She got away unharmed. Not all criminals are like that, of course, but most people in general are less likely to get snotty if they are treated respectfully. Experts say you should follow your instincts.

If it was my child in the lurch, my instinct would have been to get the nearest baseball bat or something similar and when someone hugged him, hit a home run off his head.
My survival instinct is greater than my hug instinct though. [huh] :p

Regards,

J
 

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A soft answer . . .

Paisley said:
This is like that case a few years ago where a man kidnapped a woman and she prayed with him and made him breakfast. She got away unharmed. Not all criminals are like that, of course, but most people in general are less likely to get snotty if they are treated respectfully.

In seventh grade, I had a teacher who posted quotes throughout the classroom. The one that was intriguing enough to stay with me to this day was, "a soft answer turneth away wrath." As a one whose realism is often just downright cynicism, I will say that in those too rare instances where I have cooled the fires of my righteous indignation or passion to change to the calm loving gentleness of a soft answer wrath has indeed dissipated.

I remember recalling that quote when I read about the kidnap story that Paisley retold. That news item, this newest aborted robbery, and Happyfilmluvguy's video at http://youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4 makes me wonder: has our culture of technologically enhanced isolation and fragmentation bypassed/short-circuted our natural herd response of communal acceptance by virtue of proximity thereby making everyone outside the self alien and justifiably requiring the fight-or-flight response? Is that what really happened to civility?
 
Leading Edge said:
makes me wonder: has our culture of technologically enhanced isolation and fragmentation bypassed/short-circuted our natural herd response of communal acceptance by virtue of proximity thereby making everyone outside the self alien and justifiably requiring the fight-or-flight response? Is that what really happened to civility?

Huh?[huh]

Regards,

J
 

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All too often, this is what happens...

3 Dead in Arson-Home Invasion in Conn.
By SUSAN HAIGH,
AP
Posted: 2007-07-23 19:06:55

CHESHIRE, Conn. (AP) - Intruders broke into the home of a prominent doctor, held the family hostage for several hours and then set the house on fire, police and others said. Three people were killed, and the doctor was injured.

A woman was kidnapped and taken to withdraw money from a bank while the hostages were held, police said. Bank employees were suspicious of the transaction and called police, who surrounded the home of Dr. William Petit Jr., a state police spokesman said.

A town police officer saw two men leaving the home as it was engulfed in flames, said spokesman Lt. J. Paul Vance. The men sped away, striking three police cruisers before they were captured.

Two of the three people who died were females, said authorities, who did not release any more details, including the names of the suspects, the victims or how they died. The doctor was seriously wounded. It was not known whether the woman taken to the bank was returned to the home or whether she was among the dead.

Petit, 50, a well-known diabetes specialist, lived in the home with his wife, Jennifer Hawke-Petit, 48, and their two daughters.

He was taken to St. Mary's Hospital in Waterbury, where he was in stable condition Monday afternoon, a hospital nursing supervisor said.

"It is a shocking day for everyone. It's just beyond anyone's understanding," said Larry Tanner, president and chief executive officer of The Hospital of Central Connecticut.

Petit is the medical director of the Joslin Diabetes Center Affiliate at The Hospital of Central Connecticut in New Britain. His wife of 22 years works at the Cheshire Academy, a boarding school as co-director of its health center.

Their upper-middle class neighborhood includes Colonial homes with well-kept lawns in the New Haven suburb.

The Rev. Ronald A. Rising, a neighbor, said he has known the family for more than 10 years.

"They're just a lovely family," he said. "It's just awful to think it would happen to a family like that in this community. You don't think about those things happening."
 

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