Dating etiquette

[Paisley]

Another friend was telling me just yesterday that a friend of hers went out with a guy who had six beers on their date. "He was nervous," she said. Great--so he drinks when he's nervous. "He didn't get drunk." He must get nervous a lot. And then she let him drive her home.

I guess it's not really an etiquette mistake if you don't get drunk...just not very good judgment.

 

[Dr Doran]

Another friend was telling me just yesterday that a friend of hers went out with a guy who had six beers on their date. "He was nervous," she said. Great--so he drinks when he's nervous. "He didn't get drunk." He must get nervous a lot. And then she let him drive her home.

I guess it's not really an etiquette mistake if you don't get drunk...just not very good judgment.

I'd consider it an etiquette mistake.

 

[Miss Neecerie]

My only story involves ...

Guy I was dating was out of town and when he came back into town, we agree to meet for dinner.

Now we had been -alternating- who paid...since there were money issues for us both.

So decent dinner...I pay...and he then proceeds to take my hand gently in his and say 'I bet you have been wondering where things with us were going. Well I can't see myself ever falling in love or living with you'


yea...if you -know- you are taking the girl out for a meal in order to break up with her...have the decency to -pay- for the meal.

 

[Dr Doran]

So decent dinner...I pay...and he then proceeds to take my hand gently in his and say 'I bet you have been wondering where things with us were going. Well I can't see myself ever falling in love or living with you'.

Wow. That ... I'm speechless.

 

[Dr Doran]

A quite unattractive redhead drove me to school a few times from the cafe where I worked. On one occasion, she asked if I would like to sit under a tree with her. She then read me a horrible, extremely politically correct poem at which point i was supposed to feel bad about the Oppression detailed in the poem and get into a sensitive mood. Perhaps she thought that then we would get closer. I thought the whole thing was a trap and quite repulsive to begin with, so I told her "I am allergic to ______ who blame __________ for their problems."

Unsympathetic and to the point. She stopped pursuing me.

 

[Mid-fogey]

Where do...

...I start?

I'm old now, but I was a good looking young man. Unfortunately bad luck, occasional desperation, and slow thinking created a vast supply of "bad dates."

• 
  At a dinner out with someone I was very interested in, a cockroach ran across the table. No second chance.

• 
  In a dance club someone threw a bottle and that beaned my date

• 
  A date asked me: "have you every thought about killing yourself?"

• 
  Going to meet a dream date I ran out of gas and never connected again.

• 
  A date saying: "you are so funny that you remind me of my brother"

The list goes on and on.

Thank God it ended up well.

 

[Pilotguy299]

why do ex girlfriends offer food/drink to their ex's in front of the new gf?

Gentlemen......why do ex girlfriends offer food or drink to their ex's in front of the new girlfriend?

It's an attempt to show that there's still a connection between them. Or in a much cruder sense, overtly marking territory already plundered .

 

[Dr Doran]

A date saying: "you are so funny that you remind me of my brother"[.

O God.

It's an attempt to show that there's still a connection between them. Or in a much cruder sense, overtly marking territory already plundered .

Or it is only an attempt to be polite? What if your ex's glass is empty and the bottle is on your side of the table?

 

[Pilotguy299]

O God.



Or it is only an attempt to be polite? What if your ex's glass is empty and the bottle is on your side of the table?

I think it was her BFs ex's cupcake he took a bite out of. not sure sharing that way is just being polite.

 

[Dr Doran]

I'm not sure who made the mistake on this one: myself or her. This was the girl I went out with right before Joanna (my wife).

Things had been stirring between us in Latin 2. Some definite interest. It started with us hating each other but that was because we noticed each other. She said in class once, "Aren't there any women authors we can read from ancient Rome?" The teacher said, "it was a pretty uneven society. No writing by women exists until the Christian period." She said, "that's sexist." I said, "yes, as opposed to all those other ancient societies that were so up with women."

We went out for beer a few months later and then a few days after that she came over to my bachelor's pad in the Tenderloin of San Francisco. I had the huge spread of aerating red wine, fine Italian cheeses such as Taleggio, and baguettes, along with some grapes.

HOWEVER, she was impatient with all this and wanted Things to progress faster.

I said, "you don't know how much I love Taleggio. Just hold on." And I ate more, with bread and wine.

My mistake? Hers? Was I the fool or was she being rather unladylike?

 

[Dr Doran]

I think it was her BFs ex's cupcake he took a bite out of. not sure sharing that way is just being polite.

Oh. Well.

 

[KittyT]

RetroBabydoll
Gentlemen......why do ex girlfriends offer food or drink to their ex's in front of the new girlfriend?

It's an attempt to show that there's still a connection between them. Or in a much cruder sense, overtly marking territory already plundered .

Or, they are still friends and she's just being cordial.

 

[jamespowers]

What, would you have just taken a date out for Big Macs or something? *raises eyebrow*

Probably more like to Chez Daniel where the matre d kisses the hand of the women and gives them roses. Too bad the place is closed now.
I suppose the Carnelian Room, Tonga Room or perhaps Beau Rivage would do.

 

[jamespowers]

A quite unattractive redhead drove me to school a few times from the cafe where I worked. On one occasion, she asked if I would like to sit under a tree with her. She then read me a horrible, extremely politically correct poem at which point i was supposed to feel bad about the Oppression detailed in the poem and get into a sensitive mood. Perhaps she thought that then we would get closer. I thought the whole thing was a trap and quite repulsive to begin with, so I told her "I am allergic to ______ who blame __________ for their problems."

Unsympathetic and to the point. She stopped pursuing me.

lol lol lol lol Did she smell like Patchouli oil?

 

[Dr Doran]

lol lol lol lol Did she smell like Patchouli oil?

No. This was in the town of Mountain View, in the Peninsula. South of San Francisco. Near Palo Alto, Stanford University and all that.

 

[jamespowers]

Or it is only an attempt to be polite? What if your ex's glass is empty and the bottle is on your side of the table?

Keep the bottle away from me. I might use it as a blunt instrument. She surely wouldn't want that, so the answer is "Get it yourself. You got legs and arms."

 

[Dr Doran]

Keep the bottle away from me. I might use it as a blunt instrument. She surely wouldn't want that so the answer is "get it yourself you got legs and arms."

Chivalry is not dead, I'm happy to note!

 

[jamespowers]

No. This was in the town of Mountain View, in the Peninsula. South of San Francisco. Near Palo Alto, Stanford University and all that.

Close enough. Hippies are everywhere around here.

 

[jamespowers]

Chivalry is not dead, I'm happy to note!

Certainly not. I am very equal in that sense. I would have said the same thing to a dolt I didn't like who was a man. Come to think of it, I might have "used" the bottle.

 

[reetpleat]

With a piece of worthless paper signed by the Ex with an X.

All of my exes live in Texas. And that's why I hang my hat in Tennessee